April is Autism Awareness Month, and with it comes a lot of conversation about the brain—how it works, how it processes, and how it’s different.
But what if we’ve been looking at only part of the picture?
What if some of what we’re experiencing neurologically isn’t just about the brain… but about communication within the entire nervous system?
Because the brain doesn’t function in isolation. It communicates constantly with the body through the spine. And when that communication is clear, the body has the ability to regulate, adapt, and respond. When it’s not, we start to see patterns—overwhelm, dysregulation, tension, and symptoms that don’t always have simple answers.
In Spinal Flow, as taught by Dr. Carli Axford, the spine is seen as a communication pathway between the brain and body. The gateways along the spine reflect how a person has lived, what they’ve experienced, and where stress has been stored over time.
And the very first one—the Base Gateway—matters more than most people realize.
This area, around the sacrum and tailbone, is the foundation of the nervous system. It’s where the body anchors itself physically, but also where a significant amount of stress can be held. Not just emotional stress, but physical stress—falls, impacts, injuries that were brushed off because “you were fine.”
So I’ll ask you a question I’ve been asking more often:
Have you—or your child—ever injured your tailbone?
Fallen hard on the ice. Missed a step on the stairs. Landed wrong as a kid. Even something that seemed small at the time. Most people don’t connect those moments to anything long-term. But the body keeps the record.
Within this work, we look at how physical, emotional, and chemical stress can become stored in the body, creating areas where communication between the brain and body becomes less efficient. Not broken. Not damaged. Just… not communicating clearly.
Now, let’s be very clear about something. Neurological conditions like Autism are complex. They are not caused by a single event or one area of the body. But if someone’s nervous system is already processing the world differently—and then you layer in stored stress, especially in foundational areas like the base of the spine—it can affect how that system regulates, responds, and adapts. That’s the conversation that’s often missing. Because we tend to focus on managing symptoms, rather than supporting the system as a whole.
What I see in my work isn’t about fixing people. It’s about helping the nervous system feel safe enough to shift. When that happens, the body can begin to release patterns it’s been holding—sometimes for years.
Breathing changes. Posture softens. Reactions slow down. There’s more space between stimulus and response. And for some people, that’s the first time they’ve felt that kind of ease in their body. For parents especially, this matters. Because you’re not just looking for explanations. You’re looking for ways to support your child in feeling more comfortable in their own body… more regulated… more at ease in a world that can feel overwhelming.
This isn’t about replacing therapies or approaches you already trust. It’s about asking a different question.
What if there’s stored stress in the system that hasn’t been addressed yet?
What if the body is still protecting from something it never fully processed?
And what might shift if it didn’t have to anymore?
That’s where I start.
And sometimes, it starts with something as simple as looking back and asking…
What happened to the base of the spine?
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Many women have done a great deal of inner work. They’ve talked, reflected, processed, and understood. And yet, something still feels stuck.
If you’ve ever thought, I understand this — so why hasn’t it changed? You’re not alone.
Trauma is not stored as a story. It’s stored as sensation, breath restriction, muscle tension, posture, and pattern. You can understand exactly why you react the way you do and still feel unable to change it. That doesn’t mean you’re resistant or doing it wrong. It means your nervous system hasn’t yet experienced something different.
You don’t release trauma through explanation.
You release it through experience.
When safety is felt — not imagined or reasoned through — the nervous system reorganizes. Breath deepens without effort. Muscles soften without instruction. Emotional charge dissipates without being forced or relived.
If you’ve ever felt frustrated that insight alone hasn’t brought relief, it’s not because you haven’t gone deep enough. It’s because the body needs a different language than words.
You don’t need to keep rehashing what happened.
You need your system to feel what safety feels like now.
That’s where change begins.
Most women don’t walk around thinking, I’m storing emotional trauma in my body.
They think they’re stressed. Tired. Reactive. Foggy. Disconnected. They assume it’s age, hormones, responsibility, or simply “how life is now.” Many have learned to normalize the feeling of always holding a little too much.
If this sounds familiar, it’s not because something is wrong with you. It’s because the body is honest — even when the mind has learned to move on.
The body does not store experiences to punish us. It stores them to protect us. When something overwhelms the nervous system — emotionally, relationally, or energetically — the body adapts. It tightens. It braces. It learns how to stay alert, capable, and composed. Over time, that adaptation becomes the default state.
You may not remember deciding to live this way. Most women didn’t. The body simply learned what was required to stay safe.
Emotional trauma doesn’t have to be dramatic or obvious to be stored. It can come from years of emotional neglect, chronic over-responsibility, being the one everyone relied on, or learning early that your needs were inconvenient. The body remembers what the mind learned to minimize.
If you’ve ever wondered why you still feel tense or on edge even when life looks “fine,” this is often why.
Relief doesn’t come from forcing release or trying harder to let go. It comes from restoring safety. When your nervous system feels safe enough, your body knows exactly how to soften on its own.
You are not broken.
Your body has been protecting you faithfully.